A real Post on Reality

I have been wanting to do this post for awhile now … but yesterday I was completely inspired by my dear friend Yan– who posted about the reality of her situation.

Why don’t we post our reality very often online? On our blogs, facebook and twitter? Now don’t get me wrong, I adore all of the pretty things we can find on pinterest, twitter, facebook and design blogs. Let it be known, I LOVE PRETTY THINGS. I love finding inspiration and getting ideas on how to design, decorate my house, what to cook for dinner, etc.


However, I think that sometimes we forget to post about REALITY.

So here is to you- Reality. I think that there is a place for beautiful things, and there is a place for the beauty of reality.


Want to know what some of my reality is? Oh let me tell you…

I didn’t shower half of this week, or put on makeup. This is NOT an unusual week. My studiomate Alma can attest to how often I show up to work in my pjs, workout clothes… or looking frazzled.

I gained 20 pounds in one month this pregnancy. Yep. Not even kidding.

I haven’t worked out in 4-5 months. I haven’t had time, or the energy. (and if you know me, you will know that I worked out RELIGIOUSLY before this time.. so this is very strange) In fact, I am not really sure when the last time I worked out was…

I cooked dinner once this week   . . . and it wasn’t organic or pretty looking. And I may or may not have had fast food several times this week. Yum.

I live in small apartment…not a big house. But I adore it! Half of my apartment has nothing on the walls. Nothing. I have empty frames sitting on the floors, with good intentions of starting the decorating process… for THE PAST YEAR.

When I started my business, things were really hard. I didn’t sleep enough because I was always up working and worrying about how my family would survive. I wondered where my next client would come from, how I could keep working so hard and still juggle motherhood, being a good wife, friend, and business woman. I wish I could say that with hard work, these problems went away overnight. But really, sometimes things are still hard. I have learned that businesses grow organically with work, sweat, tears, and belief in yourself, and the support of others. Thankfully after years of hard work, I don’t worry as much about finances. However, I still struggle and worry about juggling motherhood and family responsibilities with my business. It’s hard. But I have learned to be grateful for hard days as well as the good… because they give me perspective, vision, and ultimately make me who I am.

And I have to say I have learned to love the craziness. I love my messy house, my laundry that hasn’t been done this week, the food that is going bad in my fridge, and the long lists of to do that never seem to get done . . .


So why am I saying all of this? I want you dear readers- to come here, and expect lovely things. But I hope that these lovely things will only inspire you in your own life. I hope that you will know that behind this is a real person, who is far from organized, on time, and just a little bit crazy.


But most of all, I hope that you will believe in yourself, and believe that we are all doing better than we think we are. 


So I give you a free download, a little print to print out, put on your fridge, and remind yourself how awesome you are. Embrace the beauty of your own reality- whatever your challenges may be.




  1. Stephanie

    You have no idea how much I needed to read this right now. Thank you for your candor and friendship. I feel like we are “in this together” even as we sit in our own separate messes, unshowered, juggling children and computer screens. Can’t wait to see you.

  2. Natashia

    I am so grateful to have you in my life. This is beautiful! I have never thought about lovingly laundry, but I am once again inspired by you. You are always inspiring. Also, seriously drop your cutie off the next time you need a moment. I would love to have another girl over.

  3. Melinda

    Love you Mel!! This makes me miss you and our lunch dates:) I think you’re doing just fine!

  4. holly

    This is my battle cry.
    After a season of love and loss it truly puts the silly things we deem important into perspective.
    I often say to my friends how odd it is that when we see acquaintances we behave in an UNreal way….Typically, “hi, how are you?” Reply: “Great, and you?” I know it’s not so common to hang out on the playground with moms by saying all hell has broken loose but why not? Why are we conditioned to behave almost FALSELY? It is so refreshing to have friends and acquaintances who are okay with the piles of projects that make my house a “HOME”….and the ones who just know when I need to talk about how everything isn’t really GREAT and how some days I feel broken. I think those downer days are what make the lovely even lovelier. xo and thanks for the post.

  5. lyndsey @ the stationery place

    i LOVE this post. i wish more people were this honest about their lives…it can be so overwhelming to feel like you don’t measure up to the zillion bloggers out there who seem to be perfect. thank you for sharing — and, for the record, i still think you do a fantastic job keeping it all together!

  6. annie (the annilygreen one)

    i’ve been wanting to write a post like this for a while. every time i post a picture, i want to explain all the junk or ugliness i cropped out of it…and then talk about how it’s ok to have junk and not live in a magazine! so thank you for this.

  7. Aunt Jan

    Thanks for writing honestly, I have sat here and sobbed because have been really hard, but also good . I love you

  8. Johanna

    I couldn’t agree with you more… your words make me smile, all you wrote is so true for many (or even all?) of us..
    I LOVE reading blogs and yes, sometimes I forget that all the pretty homes one sees, the smiling kids, the beautiful food that is cooked, the amazing stuff that is created are not ALL in the blog-writers life.. that there is stress and worry and fear, crying kids and fast food, complicated relationships and unpaid bills.. So thank you for reminding us readers that life is the same struggle AND blessing for all of us and no one has only rainbows&unicorns every day 🙂

  9. sarahsavage

    yep. it’s good to hear that other people are working on the same things. the elusive family-home-life-work balance. i thought it would be so easy… ha. we should get together and chat and eat beautiful, delicious food together. so when you come to houston or i’m back in utah, let’s do, ok?

  10. Bec

    Thank you, for reminding me that I am not along in my “imperfections”. Just what I needed to read. x

  11. Kasia

    Dear Ms. Melanie,
    It has been far, far too long since we have talked, but I stumbled across your blog and want you to know two things:
    1. I think you are amazing
    2. I love you

    I hope your happiness is still going strong.


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